Small Things

Sometimes, if you are not careful, you will stumble upon small moments that might otherwise seem mundane, yet are something else all together.

Let me set the scene. I pull up to a stop sign where I turn right every morning, at this intersection is a bike path/crosswalk that my usual right turn goes through, so you have to check if anyone is in or about to enter the crosswalk before you proceed. Today, instead of kids going to school or a venture capitalist in spandex hunched over an overpriced "just like Lance Armstrong's", an elderly couple was making their way across. They were each using those contraptions for walking that look part cane, part shopping cart; basically two handles on a wheeled base. It was clear that there was no need to hurry, as this was going to take awhile.

As they reached the curb the gentleman made his way up the little ramp to the sidewalk, while his companion struggled to get her contrivance over the one and half inch "curb" at the bottom of the cut-out of the real curb to make it easy for bicycles to go from street to sidewalk. Though she was now on the far side of the street from me, I quickly checked to see if anyone was coming up behind me or from my left so I could pull to the side and jump out to help. I scanned for a spot to park, but in those milliseconds someone had beat me to the punch and already set about coming to her aid.

The gentleman had abandoned the safety of his perambulator and made his way back down the short ramp, where he joined the struggle to overcome such a small, yet large obstacle. Having just observed him walk the breath of the street, this version of him seemed different. He moved more quickly, he moved…

…differently. Bravely. He gently helped her get the wheels on the ramp and with a steadying caress eased her along the ramp up to the sidewalk. Only after being certain she was on safe ground did he ease over to his wheeled cane and retreat to the posture and tentative gait I'd seen before.

My instincts were to jump up and lend a helping hand, and no doubt any assistance would have been warmly received, yet I'm grateful I let the opportunity pass. I would have missed something, a very small thing, but nonetheless something profound.

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very cool ...

(#4406)

... but why is this site suddenly so enthralled by aging and death?

And taxes!

(#4410)

It's inevitable!

OK, more seriously, it's just coincidental that this incident happened this morning.

“I serve as a blank screen on which people of vastly different political stripes project their own views.”

I like the zen quality the new site is taking on

(#4534)

Everyone's so above the midterms and focusing on the big questions -- death, aging, the origins of the universe.

Do it with me, people: oohhhmmmmm.

Man Rises to Meet the Moment

(#4419)

No matter how small, it is always inspiring to see. Thanks.

I'm trying to make the best out of a bad situation. I don't need to hear crap from a bunch of hippie freaks living in denial! Screw you guys, I'm going home!

Yes

(#4427)

it's little things like this that make your days happier.

Many people would sooner die than think; In fact, they do so. - Bertrand Russell

So I was sitting at my desk

(#4432)

fighting unsuccessfully to recover a password I forgot years ago to unencrypt a document I need desperately when my wife called to berate me mercilessly for the way I left my tools scattered about her laundry room after putting up some shelves for her last night, and just about then one of the company's best developers walked in and dropped a resignation letter on my desk. In short, a spectacularly terrible day.

But your diary put a smile on my face anyway, so thanks.

"There are sneakers that cost more than an iPod." -Steve Jobs

It never fails to amaze,

(#4437)

does it? I mean you'd think she would cut you a little slack for putting up the shelves SHE wanted...but Noooooooo...

I had discovered a great secret. That everyone loves themselves more than they love anybody else. And if I wanted them to love me, I better be like THEM!... Ken Nordine

Absolutely

(#4444)

If I were to email you my phone number, would you mind speaking with my wife for a moment? She swears it's just me... :)

"There are sneakers that cost more than an iPod." -Steve Jobs

I don't get it

(#4440)
aireachail's picture

I mean, I can understand your wife being so mad about those scattered tools, but why would the developer take it so personally as to resign over them?

Women!

(#4441)

.

Guard, protect and cherish your land, for there is no afterlife for a place that started out as Heaven.

Good observation!

(#4443)

I hadn't thought about that. The guy gave me the standard 'its not you its me' letter, leaving me feeling vaguely jilted and without any real inclination as to why we're losing him. Maybe it was the tools!

"There are sneakers that cost more than an iPod." -Steve Jobs

Developers burn out

(#4448)

Mr. Sebastien,

The best particularly. If single and well paid they also tend to wanderlust. The best thing to do is get them married, which is a very good reason to keep the company stocked with eligible ladies.

Serious advice.

Thanks

(#4452)

I don't know how my wife will feel about it, but it sounds like good advice to me!

"There are sneakers that cost more than an iPod." -Steve Jobs

Well, you've obviously never....

(#4486)

....seen a good tool scattering. A little known fact is that the Spanish-American war had nothing to do with the Maine. It actually started over a mishap where standard and metric allen wrenches got mixed up.

In the medical community, death is known as Chuck Norris Syndrome. 

Yeah, but...

(#4487)

"Remember the Hex Key!" just didn't sell papers.

“I serve as a blank screen on which people of vastly different political stripes project their own views.”

On the other hand,

(#4488)
aireachail's picture

the Spanish* version:

Recuerde la llave del mal de ojo!

sounds pretty dang motivatin'!

*No guarantee there...I used the FreeTranslation site, and you get what you pay for.

A small thing

(#4447)

Mr. Macallan,

Not really a "make your day" item, but an interesting phenomenon, a little "only in America" thing really.

I have been walking around with a knee brace for a few weeks waiting for surgery (torn right lateral meniscus for you orthopedists out there, the wait is from being passed around among surgeons debating about whether its repairable). Part of the time I was wearing shorts as the
%&*#@$ brace didn't like my slacks.

At least a half-dozen times random strangers on the street came up and sympathetically asked about my knee, all of whom had knee surgeries of one sort or another. Some even showed me their scars, right out on the street. All were white US "natives".

There aren't too many places in the world where this could happen I think. Why I'm not sure. A lack of self-consciousness, a lack of reserve, an innate friendliness ? Who knows. Asians and Europeans wouldn't do this, it would be presumption at least.

Good story

(#4453)

I don't think that phenomenon is observed equally in all parts of the country. Moving from Portland, OR to Austin, TX I was absolutely amazed at the unsolicited friendliness. Nothing against Portland - it's a beautiful town filled with vibrant people - but I doubt your brace story could have happened there. (Not least because you can only wear shorts on one of the six warm days they get every year :))

"There are sneakers that cost more than an iPod." -Steve Jobs

Its happening in San Francisco

(#4469)

Mr. Sebastien,

Which seems a harder place than Portland, at least as far as I can tell. No doubt they are friendlier in Texas.

Depends on what part of Texas....I tend to think it has to do

(#4473)

With weather or random luck...

Ask courageous questions. Do not be satisfied with superficial answers. Be open to wonder and at the same time subject all claims to knowledge, without exception, to intense skeptical scrutiny. Be aware of human fallibility. Cherish your species and yo

It could also

(#4472)
aireachail's picture

depend upon the type of shorts you have on. If you have bermudas on with your brace, or perhaps a nice pair of tennis shorts, people might be more willing to engage you.

Boxers? Probably not so much...

Hey don't make fun of his boxers he is in San Fran/Gomorrah

(#4476)

:) That liberal Oasis in the west.... I tend Hear guys with pink smiley boxers get lots of attention... :)

Ask courageous questions. Do not be satisfied with superficial answers. Be open to wonder and at the same time subject all claims to knowledge, without exception, to intense skeptical scrutiny. Be aware of human fallibility. Cherish your species and yo

Mr. Alegria

(#4482)

would they be pleated slacks? Please say Yes. Otherwise my mental picture of you could use a makeover. And the shorts aren't Bermudas they're very tasteful kaki shorts, not too long and certainly not too short, with an understated use of pockets. Nice leather sandals the kind with the slats that cover your toes but not the "natural' finish ones --Dyed and polished leather ones with a dark, slightly reddish tone-- Henna if you will. Oh and the socks slighly beige and not too high but very thin.

I had discovered a great secret. That everyone loves themselves more than they love anybody else. And if I wanted them to love me, I better be like THEM!... Ken Nordine

Pleated slacks, khaki shorts, Timberland boat shoes

(#4483)

Mr. Elagabalus,

No socks.

In Latin America

(#4507)

People would not have been satisfied simply asking about your knee but would recommend a specialist they knew, and tell you all about their aunt's surgery, and how it didn't go well but now she's better, except her husband can't find a a job, and her no-good lazy son just watches tv...

You get the picture.

This place is my vacation.

Knee brace

(#5108)

I wear a knee brace to keep a wandering kneecap in its appropriate location.

I seriously have to wear long pants any time I'm going to meet any significant number of new people. Otherwise the expressions of sympathy are so tremendous as to be exhausting.

Sometimes, people are just plain nice. Also, everyone has a knee story.

"In the very long run, we are all dead." -- John Maynard Keynes, 1st Baron Keynes

Another small thing...

(#4480)
aireachail's picture

As far as I know, this is the very first time, either at the-previous-site-that-must-not-be-named or here, that there have been two open diaries with the word "Small" in the title.

ooohhh...spooky, huh?